Theories
Introduction
I believe that every person has a mind that is capable of doing really deep analyses about things. I am perhaps quite more used to it than many others, often because I have often spent more time alone with myself than perhaps the most of us. Here I will as a philophopic mind of the 21st century, post many of my views and theories about things that are around us but often aren't explained to my satisfaction.
I wanted a place to write my thoughts and theories down. So here we are!
Theories
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The source of our perceptions.
As each person are born they are coming into life with their own unique build of genes and genetics. As important they may seem another part that has always been greatly valued is the social part of the raising. I think nobody would say that the social part lacks importance but new science shows different parts of it being important without ever being able to pinpoint any specific part for being the most important or even being able to fully comprehend the full dept of it. Because of this many life paths such as homosexualism could never be pinpointed, not only because a large community suggested it was genetic, but also because of the lacking evidence that it wasn't, even if almost everyone would admit it was. As a philisophic person I spent years and years trying to solve this immense mystery. Unfortiently I misstakely managed to find something else. They key to understanding the way we make our first and foremost important perceptions. The heratage from our parents.
I found out that we do shape our own perception of who we are at a very early age. Some children are told that they are always fast, that they are always slow, that they love flowers to what sort of food they like. This pattern can be very very stigmatizing and be extreemly difficult to break. It leads us into the perception that when we enter an age of 3-7. When we still remember these words being said to us, we find them to be representing the "True" us. Even though it actually is the view of our parents.
I will explain it in a way more comprehendable. Imagine that a you are told that you are always fast at doing things. You run fast, you complete all sort of tasks fast, you are simply a child doing things faster than perhaps your parents had wanted or expected. In a large group of children you might never have gotten this comment to begin with since maybe there were examples of even faster children or simply the adults nearby would have still considered it quite normal what you were doing. Maybe the alternative children that your parents compared with, were actually just slower than normal? Either way, as you reach an age of long term memory storage. Which begins around the age of 3, you have these memories of being told that you are indeed a quick and fast person. This will be one of your ways of being you. You will no longer undeliberately be fast. You will deliberately be fast. This is a turning point, because since every child wants and needs confirmation of their excistance and their identetity, children will use these early perceptions to achieve this. The effect of the deliberate quick and fast behaivor will then also be stored in long term memory and even deeper store this perception that you indeed is a quick and fast person. However, what happens if you aren't confirmed by the adults and children around you for being fast? Quite possibly more science needs to be put here to really evaluate it, but I believe that there is one very obvious answer, maybe more.
This leads to that the child will try alternative ways to reach the attention, such as other memories where they might be described as let's say, helpful, cute, loving or even negative ones such as screamy, throwing tendroms or taking things from others. The testing of alternative means to seek attention, is most likely to be seen from every child. in any case since no single perception can speak of the dept of the person entirely. Most likely you are more than just a flower lower or a cutie.
If the child however is confirmed as being a fast and quick child, through varied dept of trial to achieve it, the child will most likely try to find similar children to "unite" with. This means that the choises of our first friends are most likely to be because of our early perceptions of ourself heard from adults and people around us. Bare in mind that a boy child is more likely to be told he is perhaps strong, fast, boyish than a girl child would be. She might however find easier to accociate with other girls since they are also described as perhaps girlish, sweet and kind. Pending on the dept of the similarities we strive to seek friendship with these people. One should bare in mind that this is where this can explain perceptions such as that a boy or a girl thinks they are more suited for the other gender. Transsexualism. If a girl would have been described as cocky, attentionseeking and fast. As she enforces these things in the period from age 3 to 7 she will find herself in much more similar company among boys than among other girls. As she also easily gets confirmed as such, due to her being very different from other girls, she will very quickly have this perception strongened and it will be a big part of her life long perception of herself, however, since she is still confirmed as a girl, it's a quite possible scenario that she wont see the need to be a boy, however she will be a tomboy. A boy might also find himself in the company of girls rather than boys for the same reason, maybe he has always loved flowers and been told so for all his life, As well as maybe being kind, generous, selfless and things that often will be said about girls. Even the lack of confirmation of such has a direct affect on the child. Hearing comments that usually used to be describing you only used on for example the opposing gender, might speak to the child that he or she is actually of the wrong gender. This is where I believe transsexualism is mostly derived from. Even if the tomboy example also could encourage cross-gender desires, I believe there is often this mix of the scenarios where children perhaps are seeing themselves as in the girl scenario, "cocky, attentionseeking and fast" She might be confirmed about the first two, but only hear boys being called fast, even though she feels it should have been said about her too.
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The cause of our early descriptions that later becomes our perceptions
What then is the source of the early descriptions that we hear from our parents and othe adults as we reach and reached the age of 3 to 7? Most commonly I would argue that that are descriptions that often coinside with what our parents wants us to be or think from their experience that we are. If a parent has got for example two children. One does things at rate 1.0 and the other does it at the rate 1.5. One can expect either one child being "fast" or the other being "slow". If the parent has 10 children he would maybe see that the children would vary all from 0.33 to the rate of 3.0. The parent would then have considered 1.0 and 1.5 to be quite ordinary. This is the part where experience plays part. However the parent will perhaps like the view that the child at 1.5 is fast because it fits her life, maybe he or she was always told he or she was fast aswell! One very famous and extreemly stimatizing description could be that of what is always almost exclusively said about boys. That they are strong. I believe almost every boy gets told endless of times that he is strong, powerful or something of that nature. This would be something that the parents, grandparents and adults all over, would consider to be quite a plain thing to say. Little do they maybe know that it will make up a big chunk of telling that child who to be and how to be. This might start to seem a bit like a feminism story. I must admit that the more one does think about these things, the more I start to acknowledge that feministic people had one of the best understandings of this before now. However to use science as a buffee and only take out the few things you like and hide the rest of the facts is never an acceptable way to work. Everything must be revealed or it's a crime agienst humanity, that's my opinion!